– Eat healthy;
Try to eat plenty of fruits and vegetables. Cut your meal portions into serving sizes so you’ll be less likely to eat too much. Eat until you are no longer hungry, DON’T eat until you are full. If you are hungry in between meals, have a light, healthy snack. Drink plenty of water because it fills you up but it doesn’t have calories or fat. Half the time you think you’re hungry, you’re actually thirsty, so drink away!

– Exercise regularly;
Five days a week, do 30 minutes of cardio followed by 15 of toning exercises. This will burn fat and tone muscles. (EXAMPLE: jogging, and then do pushups, crunches, box squats, etc.)
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The truth is..I do side with the poster – nowhere does the guy say he stop loving her, but he does not find her attractive..Remember he changed ONLY because she changed and we are not talking about a couple of pounds, let alone 20-40lbs…We are talking about a transformation of a person – most people probably wouldnt even recognize his wife if they see her before the weight gain then after..The weight is not healthy and thus not attractive either…There is no blame to the husband for feeling this way..Unless he is personally attacking her and calling her names, I will have to say I also have had a hard time wanting to make love to someone you are not attractive to..

How many of you know heavy people – REALLY KNOW them – as in friends – I do..and guess what..the girls that I know..are NEVER attracted to their counterparts HEAVY guys, they actually find the much fit better looking guys…Just because their fat doesnt mean they would automatically find other fat people attractive…and you know what – nothing is wrong with feeling this way..Pencil me this – how many of YOU find fat people attractive – in a physical sense – bet that number will be extremely low…

Of course, you may say a PRETTY BOY will bring you nothing but problems, a think sexy lady will bring you nothing but problems..Hell – I have problems with a fat wife – Id rather be unhappy with someone at least thin than fat..Its like saying, Id rather be poor and happy than rich and unhappy – BS – Id rather be RICH AND HAPPY thant POOR AND HAPPY..

Ive met tons of great loving thin people..Fat people also abuse those who are thin and find something to say bad about them..but there is not one of them that will not want to trade the fat for the thin…Some people look good with some weight, I personally like a girl with some meat on her, I just dont like it when you know there is WAY too much – and it just doesnt look attractive. My wife has a very pretty face – but the rest of her body – disgusts me – but her personality – I will not trade that woman for any thin woman – ever – I love her for that – I never tell her she is Obese, only because she sees herself everyday when she showers, its too sensitve to say anything to her…So I try my best to give her as much loving without trying to notice the obesity – its alot of work – and its worth for me. I wish I could help her loose the weight, Im in pretty good shape, always have been lucky about it…

Just remember – and this goes for men and woman – there is a diff between love and attractiveness. Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong wanting to see your husband or wife in a physically attractive way. Its the way we are, of course there is more to that to make it work – but it plays a part.

Good luck with your wife. I know its hard to deal with it and although you dont expect her to probably loose all the weight. It will be nice to see her drop some pounds, it makes a world of a difference. Just sacrifice everything for her – help her on whatever – dont press it – its not easy to loose weight. At the end if she doesnt want to – well – life provides other options – none that I will suggest – but its human nature – that shit happens..
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The truth is..I do side with the poster – nowhere does the guy say he stop loving her, but he does not find her attractive..Remember he changed ONLY because she changed and we are not talking about a couple of pounds, let alone 20-40lbs…We are talking about a transformation of a person – most people probably wouldnt even recognize his wife if they see her before the weight gain then after..The weight is not healthy and thus not attractive either…There is no blame to the husband for feeling this way..Unless he is personally attacking her and calling her names, I will have to say I also have had a hard time wanting to make love to someone you are not attractive to..

How many of you know heavy people – REALLY KNOW them – as in friends – I do..and guess what..the girls that I know..are NEVER attracted to their counterparts HEAVY guys, they actually find the much fit better looking guys…Just because their fat doesnt mean they would automatically find other fat people attractive…and you know what – nothing is wrong with feeling this way..Pencil me this – how many of YOU find fat people attractive – in a physical sense – bet that number will be extremely low…

Of course, you may say a PRETTY BOY will bring you nothing but problems, a think sexy lady will bring you nothing but problems..Hell – I have problems with a fat wife – Id rather be unhappy with someone at least thin than fat..Its like saying, Id rather be poor and happy than rich and unhappy – BS – Id rather be RICH AND HAPPY thant POOR AND HAPPY..

Ive met tons of great loving thin people..Fat people also abuse those who are thin and find something to say bad about them..but there is not one of them that will not want to trade the fat for the thin…Some people look good with some weight, I personally like a girl with some meat on her, I just dont like it when you know there is WAY too much – and it just doesnt look attractive. My wife has a very pretty face – but the rest of her body – disgusts me – but her personality – I will not trade that woman for any thin woman – ever – I love her for that – I never tell her she is Obese, only because she sees herself everyday when she showers, its too sensitve to say anything to her…So I try my best to give her as much loving without trying to notice the obesity – its alot of work – and its worth for me. I wish I could help her loose the weight, Im in pretty good shape, always have been lucky about it…

Just remember – and this goes for men and woman – there is a diff between love and attractiveness. Also, there is absolutely nothing wrong wanting to see your husband or wife in a physically attractive way. Its the way we are, of course there is more to that to make it work – but it plays a part.

Good luck with your wife. I know its hard to deal with it and although you dont expect her to probably loose all the weight. It will be nice to see her drop some pounds, it makes a world of a difference. Just sacrifice everything for her – help her on whatever – dont press it – its not easy to loose weight. At the end if she doesnt want to – well – life provides other options – none that I will suggest – but its human nature – that shit happens..
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The best way to be healthy is through the principles of balance and moderation. You need to eat good food and eat enough of it.

When trying to lose weight, shoot to lose 1-3 pounds per week. No more. Don’t go hungry, just keep yourself filled with good, natural foods.

Don’t worry about calories. Caloric science is flawed for several reasons. 1) it assumes 100% absorption, but we all absorb and excrete different amounts; 2) It assumes all calories are processed the same, but calories from natural sources are burned more slowly and evenly than from refined sources; 3) It assumes that the amount of energy released by combustion (burning) in a lab is the same amount of energy released when the food is broken down enzymatically in the gut; 4) It assumes that the same exercise done by different people will burn the same amount of exercise, but different exercises will be harder or easier for different people; 5) Correlation does not prove causation. People who are heavier eat more calories: did the calories make them heavy, or did being heavy make them need more calories? Maybe they are both symptoms of a deeper problem. 6) people in China consume 25-40% more calories; even the sedentary office workers have more calories and less obesity than we.

Asian cultures have long ago figured out how we should be eating, Ever since we have looked to science to tell us how to eat we have seen more obesity and diet-related disease. If we eat like the Asians, we will look like the Asians. This doesn’t mean you have to eat Asian food, just adhere to the principles that are common to the different cultures and cuisines.

You should eat mostly vegetables, mostly cooked (cold and raw foods slow your metabolism because they need to be cooked in your stomach) and a wide variety, mostly fresh and in-season and local, simple grains (more rice, less bread), some fruit, a little meat, no dairy (it’s for infants and grows tissue), and no artificial foods.

Avoid artificial foods, including sugar substitutes. Don’t worry about calories, fat, protein, carbs, nor any one component of food.

There are several books that explain this strategy of eating. "The Asian Diet: simple secrets for eating right, losing weight, and being well" by Bussell explains the diet and its rationale. "The Asian Diet: get slim and stay slim the Asian way" by Tran has recipes that adhere to the principles. "The China Study" by Campbell has the science behind the recommendation.

Get some exercise every day, but not too much and not always the same exercise. Start slow and work your way up. Calisthenics are great, as is Tai Chi. Walking and swimming are also great. All other exercises should be in a wide rotation.

Follow the principles of balance and moderation and you’ll be fine. Most diets in America are not balanced nor moderate.
Source(s):
http://www.theasiandiet.com
http://www.thechinastudy.com
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